The title says it all. This post is going to answer those tough questions and sweep out those dirty corners in the depths of your soul. By the end we should no longer be puzzled by thoughts, such as:
Is love real?
Is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?
Is Brad Pitt love embodied?
Why do I feel the same about my spouse as I do my favorite donut?
I know that these are very real, powerful, and painful feelings that we all experience in life, but I am confident that what I have to say will give relief to all of your pains, or at the very least add to them.
The main subject on the agenda really is the difference between being in love with someone and loving somebody. Is there a difference? How can I know? What should I do?
Well, the first question is easy. Is there a difference? Yes. Being in love is obviously a state of being. It is a natural disposition to appreciate, care for, and show affection towards another being. It is to unconditionally hope the best for them in all that they do. It is not created by acts or commitments and is not defined by flowers or kisses. If fact it is not an action at all, but rather the most pure of motivations for loving. However, loving somebody is the actual doing of these things. Loving somebody is to care for them and show affection in emotional, spiritual, physical, and all other aspects of life. Note that being in love is not a prerequisite to doing any of these things, but it is highly recommended.
Recap:
Being in love = Motivation
Loving = Action, maybe fulfilling other motives than that of being in love
On a happier note, my rants are at an end. This topic will be continued in other posts as I answer the questions: How can I know? and What should I do?
so in short you can be in love, but not love all at the same time.
ReplyDeleteI think you do before you are. I don't think the Lord hands out charity to those who aren't already doing charitable things. I think as you show love over and over and over again, you fall more in love.
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